His new girlfriend’s anti-cheater book alarms his cheating ex Dear Carolyn: My marriage ended three years ago because my wife cheated on me and left me for that guy. The whole experience was devastating, but after wallowing for months, I spent time in therapy, worked on myself and carried on. My ex and I have reached a good place and co-parent our son well. We are not friends, but we are friendly. Now, I am in love with a beautiful, smart, funny woman whom I’ve been dating for six months. Because of her, I am happier than I’ve been since before my marriage ended. She was also cheated on, and we bonded over that experience. She wrote and published a book about it. My ex Googled her name and read the book and told me she’s not happy about the relationship. The book is very brutal about cheaters. My ex says she’s worried about what my girlfriend will eventually say to our son about cheaters and about her. I promised I won’t let that happen, but my ex says my girlfriend is bitter and toxic and I should steer clear. I read the book for myself and it’s very funny, but she doesn’t pull any punches about her hatred and disdain for her ex and all cheaters. Her ex was mean and insulting all through the divorce, so it’s understandable. They don’t have kids so she’s free to hate him all she wants. Could that book be a sign of toxicity, or is it a great method of coping? — Happier Than … Introducing Say More, a new advice column from The Washington Post. Carolyn’s been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. | 
