Dear Carolyn: Something snapped in me the other day when I realized my husband of 30 years tends to use me as Google instead of doing the research himself.“You want to hire this contractor, is there a better one?”“Whereare we going to go and what are we going to do on vacation?”“Where should we go to dinner?” And even better,“What should I do after I retire?”
On the one hand, I appreciatethathe is asking my opinion. Onthe otherhand,my opinions are most often then rejected out of hand,or I am inundated withrequests for follow-up reasoning forWHY I made a particular choice or know a particular fact.Maybe it’s analysis paralysis, but I’d just like him to switch shoes and do some research and make a decision!
How do I maintain my cool now that I bristle every time we have an exchange like this?
