Playing music is my life. Must I quit that? Hax readers give advice. We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Dear Carolyn: I’m almost 75. I am a retired professor and a professional musician. From age 3, I knew I wanted to play my instrument; from age 11, I was lucky enough to win an audition for a wonderful youth orchestra. As an adult, I’ve taught full time and enjoyed it for the most part. But what gave me the most challenges, excitement and joy has always been playing, especially orchestral. Now that I’m retired, I don’t miss teaching at all. As arthritic pain and vision problems have made orchestral work harder and more painful, I have resigned from two orchestras. My musician friends and I made a pact: If one of us no longer sounds like themself, we will let them know. None of my friends have said a word. In my heart, I know my technique is slower and a little less reliable. And I know my mind is slower, too. Part of me feels like I should resign from the other two orchestras; I never want to play if I’m not my colleagues’ equal. However, this isn’t just what I do professionally. It’s who I am and what’s given me the most joy; it’s what has taken me all over, from Carnegie to Europe. Quitting will break my heart. Please help me make this decision. — The Musician Carolyn’s been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. | 
