Dear Carolyn: My ex is getting married soon. I know this because we havea number of shared friends, though I am closer to them than he is. (He is a very social person with a wide field of shallow friendships.) We were together for seven years spanning our late 20s and early 30s, and our breakup three years ago was life-changing for me, a truly awful experience.
A couple of friends have asked whether I am comfortable with them going to his wedding. They don’t otherwise see or talk to him very often, but he apparently invited every person he’s ever met. I know the right answer is to say of course they can go, continue to live my own life and worry less in general about what’s going on in his, but Iactually feelvery sad, mad and anxious about it. It’s not okay for me to say no, is it?
